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Friday, October 30, 2009

I wanna know what love isssssssssssssss….I want you to shoooooow me!

No, this isn’t me belting out some undying news about my current love life.
Yes, this is a blog about people asking me for love/dating advice.
If you know me, you should be laughing by now. If you don’t know me, well laugh anyways. When it comes to dating or relationship advice, I sure think I can dish it out but I cant take it and I might possibly be the worst example to follow. I'm neurotic, I over analyze, I cling, I try and fix, and if the poor sucker makes it through all this, I do a big ol switch-a-roo at about 6 weeks and push away, criticize, find everything possibly wrong (why is your middle toe longer than the other?) and then finally decide they are all wrong for me and we never had chemistry in the first place. There are usually 2 types of scenarios in my dating world. The guy I move too fast with (usually goes along with the over analyze/cling part) and we all know those guys don’t stick around once they have gotten their cake (sorry mom if you are reading this. I promise I'm not a hussie) and then the guy that’s probably perfect for me (this is usually the 6 week guy, and I never let them see me sans clothing).
All of my good friends and family know this about me. So why is it suddenly 2 people in my life are suddenly turning to ME for dating advice? And sadly enough, its actually WORKING for them?
I think its because I'm finally in a relationship lasting longer than 6 weeks (almost doubled!) WITH a guy I probably moved too quickly with (thanks for sticking it out) and these 2 people are thinking “if it worked for her of all people, she must know SOMETHING that can make it work for me). Because these 2 people have some of the same dating patterns I do. And I'm not mentioning names for a reason.
Ill wrap this up so it doesn’t turn out to be like a drawn out journal entry. Bottom line is this…I guess when the right one comes along, there is no need to go back to your old patterns. Ive found someone who doesn’t make me neurotic, doesn’t give me the chance to even think about over analyzing. He has his issues (and oh boy so do I) but we don’t try and fix what the other doesn’t want help fixing in themselves already. I don’t want to push him away, I have no desire to criticize anything he says or does (yet) and I actually like his toes (eventhough he has monster size 15 feet with hair on his toes you could comb over – sorry babe if you actually read these things).
So my words of advice to my mom and sister (oops, did I just out you?) Just relax and have a good time. Don’t think too much, and just be you. Because there is a crazy guy out there that will like you and your weird quirks. Its like the saying "always show the you in you that makes you the you that you are."
And to the lucky guy I get to wake up to most mornings…I promise I'm not as crazy as I made myself sound here. Im lucky to have found you, and you are the best thing that has happened to me.
And to my BFF who I KNOW is going to rip this to shreds – go easy on me.


  1. This is by far one of the greatest things I have ever read. And is it possible that I actually learned something from it? Well I did. And that "you" saying I had to repeat 7 times out loud and I still dont' get it, so if it's a good one, please explain it to me. Seriously though, I am amazed at you and I'm loving whatever this boy is doing to you, because it's helping you see that you really are loved and valuable and worthy, which is how I have always seen you. Love you friend!

  2. Nope, for once, no sarcasm from the BFF. I am proud of you lady, I know it is not easy for you to share things like this, with one person or with the entire world-wide web. To see one of the most important people in the world to me finally embrace the possibility of hapiness in her life, makes me very happy. Here's a shout-out to the guy responsible for said happiness as well. Way ta go, McFly!


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