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Thursday, April 22, 2010

Unconditional.


Ive had a pretty interesting week, emotionally. While celebrating my friends nuptials last Friday evening, we found out the boyfriend’s brother has a brain tumor. Im supposed to be the strong one in this situation, holding him up allowing him to break down. But I was quite the opposite. I was a bawling mess, and he was comforting me. Standing out on the dance floor, dancing to the couples dance, crying my eyes out, for the wrong reasons given the time and place. But to any strangers, I just looked like I was crying tears of joy.

The situation has since taken a turn for the somewhat better. Its looking like everything might be ok, but at the same time, its still a scary situation. We’ll know more in the coming weeks.

I wasn’t going to talk about it here. We have the support of our good friends and family. But then I realized, although virtually, your thoughts and words can often be comforting to me. Strange, considering I wouldn’t know if I was standing next to you in an elevator. And yet, I feel like some of you could be a good friend, if we ever met.

Its funny. You never realize how much you truly love someone, until something happens to their immediate family, and it completely rocks your own world.

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  1. While each and every situation is unique, I survived having a benign, quarter sized tumor removed from the base of my brain when I was 12 y/o and consider myself to be on my "2nd life" ever since then.

    Hang in there and keep positive thoughts, always :)

    -B

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  2. Oh hon, having been through something similar with Danny's family, I can actually say that I know what you mean. I will keep you guys in my mind and prayers. I hope everything works out for the best!

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  3. You are all in my prayers!

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  4. you and your friend will be in my prayers...

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  5. My father had a brain tumor the size of a lemon removed when I was 16.

    It is a scary situation. My prayers are with you.

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  6. My prayers are with you. Hoping all goes well & everything will be ok. I too think words of others even if virtual are comforting. Hang in there.

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  7. I can only imagine how scary this must be for all of you! So very glad to hear that situation has taken a positive turn, but you will still be in my prayers...you, the boyfriend and his brother.

    And don't beat yourself up for not being "the strong one in this situation". The fact that you are so emotional says so much about how deeply you love the boyfriend. And that is probably giving him more strength than you know :)

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  8. Oh, Laurnie, I'm so sad to hear this. You and your family are in my prayers. Let me know if you need anything, even if it's just a laugh!

    <3 you!!

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  9. So sorry...thoughts, prayers and love to you, your boyfriend and his brother and family.

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  10. We've been through something similar with a friend and I know it's so scary! Hang in there. I am sending all positive thoughts.

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  11. A dear cousin of mine survived her brain tumor. Think positive thoughts and know you're in my thoughts and prayers. *hug*

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  12. oh dear. i am so sorry. sometimes this stuff completely blindsides us in life. and SOMETIMES it all works out. i am hoping things will be ok.

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  13. Sending many good thoughts and hugs your way.

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  14. Love you man. I'm here if you need a good vent fest. We can get have a wine-phone date!

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  15. Okay let's open a bottle of red and put on some pj's and let's sit and talk about it okay?
    sometimes that makes me feel better.

    I am sending a big warm hug your way.
    I wish there was something I could say or do to make this go away for you all.
    My prayers will have to do for now.
    Hugs
    P.

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  16. Seriously, the emails, tweets and comments of my *virtual* friends kept me going when my grandma passed away. The thought that strangers care about what happens to you is way uplifting.

    *virtual hugs and hope*

    ♥Spot

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  17. How awful for you and your loved ones. Yes, it is strange how close this on-line community is. All our thoughts and prayers are with you.

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  18. please keep me posted... i really hope everything will be okay. i can only imagine how it must have felt to learn of that news, especially when you're at such a happy occasion and not expecting to be blindsided like that. and i can only imagine what your friends and their family must be going through. i truly hope there is reason to be positive and that this will end soon and end well. you're in my thoughts...

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  19. life and that damn rug. pulled out from under us.
    xoxo

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  20. I know what it's like, my grandmother has a tumour and is very seriously ill. I hope everything turns out right for you.

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  21. i know what you mean. i started my blog because i wanted to get feedback from others in regards to my writing and wanting to write screenplays and that somehow meant more than my friends and family telling me they liked how i wrote.

    anyway i look at 'blogdom' differently than most because i swear i can literally 'feel' a difference in what some people write and what it means to them/you. meaning my heart breaks for you and i, kinda like you said, could have passed by you before and not even known it.

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  22. Sending health and happiness vibes, know you and your family are in many prayers this week! :)

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  23. One of my friends is dealing with the same thing... it's so hard knowing she's all the way in Chicago and there's almost nothing I can do for her. Life is so short...

    *bear hug*

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